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Being a Housewife is not a Sin



Being a Housewife is not a Sin

“No matter want to be a carrier woman or a housewife, every woman should achieve high education. Since they will be a mother, and a smart mother will deliver smart children.”

That was a well-known quotation by Dian Sastro Wardoyo, the Indonesian famous actress. What a beautiful quotation is that. There is actually a deep meaning if we carefully notice this.
In today circumstance, woman loudly speaks about gender generalization; that they have the same right as the men do. Woman works out, and no longer stays at home as the woman used to be. They have achieved high education, so being a woman career is found as the consequence.
I don’t know exactly since when this paradigm started and by whom. To be honest I personally also ever thought the same thing. That an educated woman should work outside as the consequence. But then I was “waken up” by realizing that actually the main goal of achieving education as high as possible is not for a work. Work is just a “bonus” after all. The main goal of being educated is actually to prepare ourselves to be the best mothers. Since mother is the primary school of every child. That by being educated, we, women, hopefully can both educate and nurture our future children, to be their best ever.
A little story I got may be able to inspire you all.
Once, in Rasulullah Muhammad SAW period, there was a woman namely Muthiah.
Rasulullah said that she was the Jannah* denizen to-be. Aisha, Rasulullah’s wife, was so curious of her. She wanted to know, what deed she did that she could be granted by Allah to be the Jannah denizen. Aisha finally decided to come to her. At the first meeting, Aisha was not allowed to enter her house because Aisha took Husein, her little child. Muthiah does not allow her to come in, because her husband had instructed her not to accept a man guess. Aisha was so surprised, she said that Husein was a little boy, that he had not even been mature. However Muthiah insisted, she said that her husband did not mention the specific kind of man she could accept, include the age. Therefore she refused. Aisha finally understood and she went away.
Aisha came to her again in the next day. At this time, she came alone. Then Muthiah accepted her to come in to her house.
Aisha then asked what deed Muthiah did that she was granted as a Jannah denizen. Muthiah then confessed that she actually had no special deed. She only had three things on her;
1. A handkerchief that she used to wipe her husband’s sweat after he worked out all day long,
2. A hand fan that she used to fan her husband if he felt heat, and
3. A little stick that she asked her husband to hit her with it if her cook was not good.

This real short story may not exist anymore today. Woman can be the one who comes even later after her husband. But what I want to share is that actually being a woman is full of respect and honorary from Islamic perspective. That actually the main goal of being a woman is not to be a hard worker, but to be the best mother and wife. That it is even granted with Jannah, His paradise. As what Ummi Pipik Dian Irawati said, a housewife should not be jealous of other women who become a director, a career woman, and so forth. Even, being a housewife is eternal alms, which the salary is paid in cash from Allah SWT directly.
There is no idea about which one is better between to be a career woman and to be a housewife. This is just a writing to remind that being a housewife is obviously not a sin, even a bless for the family that a woman belongs to.
In short, let’s be the best, let’s achieve the best, to deliver the best generations later! :)

*Jannah= Islamic word for paradise, heaven

Written by Rahma Nugrahaini, S.Pd.

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